How to heal when parents scold you badly for minor things

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Parents show us love and care ever since the begging of the day we were born. But sometimes that can go in a not-so-great direction. Sometimes we have fights with them, or they yell at us even though we did not do anything really bad and wrong. This can happen at times but remember it is not always your fault that your parents are angry on you. I also clearly remember when my dad was off to US and my mom and grandmother were in charge in taking care of me and my sisters. One day at approximately 4 pm me and my sister were going out to play and when I was outside walking in the garden, I was holding a water bottle and I slipped and dropped the bottle and the lid broke. My mom heard the sound and yelled at me really badly. She was asking " Don't you even know how to take care of a bottle?" in a really angry and loud voice. She was also like " Come on grow up!" It deep down did hurt me but when I thought long and hard about it and told myself that sometimes parents can feel very stressed about how things ae going and can get angry when you have not done anything really that bad or wrong. When you encounter a similar situation like this tell yourself that " It is not like I did something really that bad. My mom/ dad is just a little stressed and tired and their stress can lead to them getting angry on you on minor things". I must just be a little careful". You can also take some time to lie down on your bed, cry and lock your doors. Don't think about anything and just lie down and relax. Just tell yourself, this won't last for a long time. What I do is I just cry for a while silently and alone. It is perfectly OKAY to cry, and anybody can have tears no matter how old they are. Sometimes, I have the tendency of thinking crying is immature and only little kids cry. But then I gradually learnt that it is perfectly fine to cry. After I cry, I feel a lot better and try to not cry again by obsessing about the problem by distracting myself by looking around. Also, after that you can calmly talk to your parents about the incident. They also might feel bad for scolding you too hard when you have done nothing really wrong. Life is full of ups and downs and these incidents with parents are a typical and general part of life. The important thing is to learn something from negative situations and tell yourself-

Do not worry about the past! The past is the past!

Focus on Now!

We all make mistakes and are humans and not robots or supernatural beings who are always perfect. The main things we can do as children are being organized, obedient and be supportive of our parents.